Facebook aftermath

Alondra and me

I wondered what the aftermath of no facebook in my life would look like...would I go through withdrawals...would there be a rash or maybe the shakes?  Would the sky turn black and the clouds boil like some apocalyptic scenes from too many bad movies?  Sounds silly, but I was SO connected at the hip, I really felt like I might have an actual physical reaction.  Not really, but it was in the back of my mind...

Me and LaLa

I mean honestly, ask yourself, how would you feel if you deleted your fb account RIGHT NOW....my reactions was...my pictures! my friends!!! all that "work" I put into it.  Note* IF you deactivate your account, they make it super easy to reactivate it. All you have to do is log back in and everything "will be just as you left it".  I was almost disappointed.  Did I have the strength to just not "log back in".  Too easy, too easy! 

The core 4, minus Monica

  I foud myself with little ticks, almost like a little internal clock, "facccceeeboookkkkk" it whispered.....check intoooo the world......"  shooots.  I think I was getting it backwards.  Facebook is for staying connected, but I was ULTRA connected.  I was really hiding.  Like I said before... it is NOT easy moving to another city, let alone another state, LET ALONE another part of the world....Hawaii IS part of the US, but it might as well be another country.  Honestly, even the street names are hard to pronounce, and there are many cultural do's and don'ts..just as if you are in another part of the world.

Kylee and Me

So, the move has not been easy for me, especially since Trevor has been gone most of the time.  I am not complaining (yet) just that being on the outskirts of the windward side of oahu makes it harder to meet people...  I was, instead of building relationships in the real world, building and tending the ones on facebook...

Yesterday I realized, is my life better or worse not knowing "x" about this person?  Is it differnet at all?  Fb was giving me access to SO much information about people that really didn't affect my life, I was on information overload and I didn't even know it.  Is my life better knowing that so-and-so went to the dentist today?  Is that info that I can live with out?
My other thought is this...if this IS the new medium of communication, and you are more or less expected to use it, at what point do YOU become outdated for NOT using it.  THe OUTDATED thing I am not too worried about, but at what point are you EXPECTED to know things considering the up to the second updates you recieve via facebook....
Am I becoming a relic by NOT using facebook?  I am guessing I will garner some "looks" when I tell people, "No, you cant find me on facbook."
I am enjoying the unconnectedness of it all....I do admit that I am missing it a little, but I am hoping that people will continue to keep in touch, the "old fashioned way" of emails or, gasp, phone calls!!!

Jenn and Kylee

I feel that by un-connecting, I am re-connecting.  I am trimming the fat of the meaningless/non-necessary information from my life.  People that are important to me, and will remain important will stay connected.  Messaging on FB is NOT a substitution for a good conversation or phone date, or lunch...

Loves of my life <3

I had such an amazing base of friends and urban family in Humboldt and I miss that very much.




I would literally see at least one person I knew and LOVED everyday.  THAT is the connection that I am missing, and it ain't going to happen sitting around and face booking all day!

The other reason I had for getting rid of it was that it was causing friction.  Guess what.  I have never apologized for who I am before, and I am not about to start now.  This left wing nutjob is quite happy with her convictions and all that she believes, even if you are not.

“Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it. Do not believe in anything simply because it is spoken and rumored by many. Do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in your religious books. Do not believe in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders. Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations. But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it.”                  - Buddah